As a kid my mom would say to my sister and I that her marriage came first. I remember thinking seriously? I’m your kid though. When she said that it didn’t mean that my mom wouldn’t try to literally do everything in the world she could for us, or that she wouldn’t encourage, support, or love us. It just simply meant what she said, Her marriage came first.
Now that I’m married and have our first boy I have begun to understand that more then I ever thought possible.
I know what tons of you are probably thinking… really? You are about to celebrate the first birthday of your first child. You have a long time until you are empty nesters. But do we? I have always heard people say that time with your children flies by so quickly. The first year has gone by so fast I can’t even believe it. So that means that there will be a day where Titus will go off to school or start his career, get married and have a family of his own. What does that mean for this mama? What does that mean for my relationship with my husband if I don’t continue to make it a priority now?
That means marriage first. Even now when Titus is home with me my relationship with Nathan has to be my first priority. We both have to make sure that we are still communicating, making sure our marriage is growing, going on dates and having fun together. We have started talking more about our dreams, our future plans and what we want to do with our lives. As of now we have it nailed down that in the next few years he will gladly move his family closer to the beach and where it’s summer all the time. We want to travel more and take a nice tropical vacation together. I need to be in a place where I am so in love with my husband, rely on God, and have deep friendships that when the day comes when Titus doesn’t need his mama anymore that life will still be ok.
Let me also end this with how much I love being this little boys mama. How I am so thankful that I get to spend our days watching him grow and learn. How he brings more joy to my life then I ever thought possible. I hope he follows all of his dreams and knows that his mom and dad will always be on the sidelines cheering for him. We are so blessed and so thankful to be parents. But more than that, I am so thankful to have such an amazing man by my side to do this crazy life with.